Are you able to score tons of phone numbers and dates, but fail to ever pass round one?  Many men are guilty of first date mistakes that are seemingly simple, but yet cement their doomed relationship fate. Here are a few tips as to what women are really judging you on, and how to ensure you get the chance for a second date. 

Appearance

Yes, gentlemen, I know this one seems obvious enough, but you would be surprised at how many of your brothers attempt to court a woman while committing every fashion and grooming "don't" known to man. There is a big difference between purposefully showing off some trendy five o'clock shadow and lazily looking like an unkept Grizzly Adams.

While we appreciate the effort it must take to avoid smelling like sweat, we'd appreciate it if you didn't bathe yourselves in cheap cologne. And finally, the ladies of the world aren't asking for every member of the male fraternity to look like a GQ model, but a quick peek in the mirror before stepping out the door could do wonders.

The truth is that women make up their minds about a man the second they see  him. A man who puts care and attention into the way he presents himself leads a woman to think that he will approach all areas of his life with the same amount of respect and care. So before you head out the door, run a blade over those faces, iron the pants, and throw on some black socks.

Manners

Regardless of how far the feminist movement has come, every woman still appreciates the thought behind a gentlemanly gesture. The effort behind good manners is completely minimal, yet leaves a lasting impression. The act of opening doors, pulling out chairs, and remembering your "pleases" and "thank yous" will demonstrate a respect for others.

Make sure to extend the same kind consideration to any server that may cross your path. Women pay attention todetails, including how their dates treat restaurant staff. Kind conversation and witty banter with a waiter may seem insignificant, but will undoubtedly be noticed and appreciated by the woman at your side. 

Good manners even extend to the mobile reality that we have all become a part of. Even though you may attend your date with a cell phone in tow, there is no excuse to participate in calls throughout the course of the evening. So make sure you turn that phone off because even the slightest vibration while on silent mode may distract you from the task at hand.

While on a first date, the primary objective is to give your undivided attention to the person sitting across the table in order to decide whether there will be a second date. Spending the evening chatting with the people you see on a regular basis will seal a dreadful fate for the possibility of a second date.

Communication

The point of the first date is to get to know each other, so be sure to offer as much information as she's dishing out. While most topics are open for discussion, try to stay away from mundane issues like the weather or geography. Women want to get to know you, find out what makes you tick, and see whether your life will make a nice and easy addition to theirs. Don't be afraid to ask direct questions in order to get the information you need to find out of she is possibly the one for you.

Finally, the past should stay in the past. While asking questions about the number of past loves and possibilities of long-term relationships is acceptable, try to stay away from discussing the details concerning old loves.

Discussing how beautiful and wonderful your old flame was may cause your new date to feel uncomfortable, self-conscious, and lead them to wonder what dreadful flaws forced this perfect woman to flee from your life. On the other hand, spending the night woman-bashing will only highlight the fact that you are too broken and vulnerable to undergo any kind of serious relationship.

Drinking

Needless to say, don't get drunk on the first date. If you're choosing to consume alcohol, make sure to keep it simple and social. Alcohol may take away from the lucidity or attentiveness that you can contribute to a conversation.

If you must have a drink, try to make each last awhile or switch between alcoholic and non-alcoholic beverages throughout the course of the date. If you have to be satiated with alcohol in order to be on a date, then she may begin to believe that you are unable to relate to her, or anyone for that matter, sober. Just remember that glazed eyes and slurred words are not considered attractive by anyone. And while it may only be a first date, women have the tendency to look at the bigger picture. And no one wants to bring a drunk home to meet Mom and Dad.

Sincerity

This last point is simple. Every woman is at least slightly intrigued and flattered by the news that she has made an impression on a man in her life,so if you really do like her, then tell her. Avoid the misogynist pitfalls of immature men by refusing to play the games often associated with dating. If you want to see her again, ask her out.

Forget the traditional rules of the single world and follow your feelings. You don't have to make a huge deal of the situation, but merely let her know that you admire her. Most women will admire your honesty and be happy to spend another evening with a mature man. In today's single dating world, she may have yet to encounter such an anomaly.

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be yourself

Staying true to the person you are is the most important factor when going on a first date. This way, the person will have a good idea of who you are without having to engage in guessing games.

If you can follow these guidelines and still show your true persona, you will not only score a second date, but a third and a fourth as well.

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